Dear Sue and Diane, 

My dad doesn’t approve of my best friend, and when I want to reach him, my father tells me that I can’t. It really hurts my feelings, and I feel more isolated than ever. I have no other friends that I can reach out to, and my friend is the only one that has helped me through rough times. I want my father to accept him, as well as me, but I don’t know if I can convince my father that my friend is the one for me.

Sincerely, Losing Hope

Hi Losing Hope,

We understand the feeling you’re having. It’s super frustrating to know people don’t accept you for you. It may seem like you’re at a dead end. Don’t worry, there is still hope. 

The advice we’re going to give you won’t be any quick fix solutions because things like this take time. 

However, it will be worth it if you follow through.

First, put yourself and your best friend in a positive light to change your dad’s perception. 

You can change your dad’s perception by spending time with him, helping around the house and telling favorable stories about your friend, etc. 

If you are successful, he’ll likely let his barriers down and really listen to what you have to say. 

Next, have a heart-to-heart conversation. Hear about his worries and doubts. Empathize with him and then have him empathize with you. Tell him about your situation and why it’s important that you need his acceptance. 

Remember: Don’t ever think that you have to go through hard things alone. It’s always best to talk to your best friend or even your counselor. 

If you need more advice, go on Quora (seriously, it’ll change your life). It’s a question and answer website where people from all walks of life can help you. 

Don’t stop trying. It may seem difficult but the worst thing you can do is yield to despair. 

Even if things don’t go according to plan, just know that we’re super proud of you for not giving up. 

Best of luck ^_^, 

Sue and Diane